People have been asking me what exactly I am getting rid of, and any other tips I have, so here are some thoughts.
For one, a lot of my strategy has changed. My new focus: live in the present. I am in my 40s now and we have accumulated a lot of stuff. I still often have the mindset of “Oh, we might use that some day!”, I think that is a lot of what gets us in trouble. Don’t save all these things you might use someday! For example, I had a big bin of yarn from back when I knitted things in college, and kept thinking I might pick up knitting again – but it has been 20 years. While some things are worth keeping from a financial standpoint, if I truly want to pick up knitting again, it will be ok – I can spend $20 on yarn.
But there are also a lot of things it is finally time to get rid of. My mom passed away in 2005, and when she passed, we boxed up all her stuff and I stored it. 15 years later, I am still getting rid of things. It is ok to hold on to things for a while, but at the same time, I had that realization that things sat in boxes for 15 years. It isn’t always easy to confront my past and go through old things, but dozens of boxes of dishes and books and everything else need to be consolidated, and a lot of it I got rid of. Choose things that you feel most sentimental about or that you want to pass on to your children.
Same with my childhood things. For example, I had a couple dozen ribbons from horse riding shows. I am keeping a couple, but my kids are not going to want to save dozens of ribbons. There are so many other things, like art projects from when I was a kid or even school work or a program from my school concert in 5th grade. A smaller sampling of these items is much better!
Be selective, and decide that you are going to pare down to a box or so of something like childhood memories, and downsize.
Another general strategy is to take everything off a surface – like my dining room buffet or fireplace mantle – and be selective when you put things back. Not all the extras need to be tossed, but the goal is to cut down on clutter too.
Things I am currently getting rid of (throwing out or donating, as I hate to see things go in the landfill):
~ Old towels and linens ~
We have accumulated lots of towels, linens, and blankets over the years. The reality is, you can use a couple of extra for emergencies, guests, etc. However, you don’t need closets overflowing with linens. Think of how many sets you actually need, and weed out any that aren’t great that you don’t really need.
Right away, I got rid of sheets that are pilled and scratchy. We have plenty of nice sheets, and if we run short, it gives me something to put on my wishlist, which is great considering I literally never know what I want for my birthday/xmas/etc.
I got rid of towels that weren’t good – for example anything with stains or were unraveling.
I got rid of blankets we don’t use, after making sure we have enough for guests, sleepovers, etc.
~ Things from my childhood ~
Again, my kids don’t want dozens of ribbons I got as a child, or every art project I did from preschool to high school. Time to be super selective and toss most of those. I am keeping a box of stuff, but there is no need for me to keep multiple boxes.
~ Partially used crafts ~
Now that the kids are older, it is time to toss those half-done crafts, or crafty odds and ends around the house. Maybe they got a craft kit last year and started it, but never finished it. If months have gone by and they don’t want to do it right now, toss it.
~ Worn out shoes and clothes ~
I saved some old flip flops, shoes, and clothes, thinking I would use them for things like when I do yard work, hiking, or other messy projects. Honestly, these just sit around. If clothing was stained or had armpit stains, it got tossed. Old shoes, like flip flops that had gotten thin on the bottom and I find myself tripping in – toss. If you actively wear these items for working out or messy work, that’s great! But if you are not using them, get rid of them now! Also – back to living in the now – get rid of those clothes you haven’t worn in 5+ years!
~ Antiques ~
So I am keeping SOME of these, a few that have sentimental value. But all the fancy antique glasses and other stuff that doesn’t get used, is going.
~ Old photos ~
I have a TON of photos from when I was a kid, plus others that were passed down to me. I am VERY selective about what I throw away, but I went through all the photos and did throw some away. Photos have changed so much over the years now that we have digital photography. But back in the day, we took lots of photos to try to get the best one, so I threw out a lot of those multiple photos, weeding out ones that were blurry, had a finger over the lens. As a kid and even into college, I took a lot of pictures of animals, plants, and landscapes, and not all of those need to be saved. This generated a small amount of trash, but I feel more organized in the sense that my big bin of photographs is more organized and easier to go through when there aren’t so many junk photos.
Everyone is different, so these are just my strategies. Just remember to do what is best for you!